If you suspect your loved one is losing their hearing, you may want to have a conversation about their hearing and getting their hearing tested. We know that this is a difficult conversation: sometimes they don’t believe they have hearing loss and avoid the issue; sometimes they even grow resistant and defiant; sometimes they may become afraid. We also know that, left untreated, your loved one’s hearing loss is a source of grief and frustration for you and your relationship. There are ways to make this conversation easier, and we at Audiology Associates of Redding are here to help guide you through it.
Choose the Right Time and Environment
Set the stage for a calm, focused discussion by starting the conversation at the right time and place. Avoid crowded or stressful times, like right before a major event. Use a comfortable environment, such as at home or during a pleasant outing together at a favorite park. You want a private, quiet space where you can chat one-on-one.
Do Your Research and Use Examples
Research how common hearing loss is—22% of adults ages 65–74 and 55% of adults 75 and older have disabling hearing loss—and know some common signs of the beginning stages of hearing loss so you can bring up clear examples you’ve witnessed. Frame these as observations rooted in compassion. You’re communicating to your loved one that there’s nothing wrong with them, and that you’re here to offer support.
Be Prepared for Their Emotions
Hearing loss often happens gradually. In fact, it’s common for people in the beginning stages of hearing loss not to notice the signs at all. Therefore, when your loved one is faced with the possibility of hearing loss for the first time, it can bring up a wealth of emotions: surprise, fear, stress, confusion, skepticism, denial, anger and many other complex feelings.
Your role in this emotional whirlwind is to be the safe harbor. Remain calm, be supportive and demonstrate genuine care. Make space for them to express their emotions and apprehensions. Listen to their reaction without shutting it down. If the conversation takes an unproductive turn or if you feel your own emotions rising, suggest coming back to the discussion another time, and emphasize that there are no hard feelings.
After the Conversation
Whether they expressed willingness or not to treat hearing loss after that initial conversation, remain supportive and nonjudgmental after the conversation ends. Don’t push or pressure them; you’ve said your piece, and what comes next is up to them. You may gently point out moments that indicate hearing issues, such as turning up the TV or mishearing what someone says, but choose these moments wisely. Don’t put them on the spot or sound accusatory.
When they are ready, express willingness to help in any way you can. Offer to come to their hearing test and any subsequent appointments to lend support. Research hearing health professionals and help them find a provider they’re comfortable with. Our experts at Audiology Associates of Redding are here to support you and your loved one throughout this journey.